Ecclesiastes 7:21 “Do not pay attention to every word people say, or you may hear your servant cursing you – for you know in your heart that many times you yourselves have cursed others
I started off this articles research looking for scriptures dealing with ‘offense’. In the wonderful way God works, on the way to the scripture for offense, another scripture caught my eye, it was the one above. I had written in the margins, “Let things roll…” The researched scripture, Proverbs 19:11, “A man’s wisdom gives him patience; it is to his glory to overlook an offense.” I think I may have preferred the Proverbs scripture as it doesn’t mention MY offenses, just those pointed toward me. I believe I offended myself for wanting to write about offense, because who among us has not offended someone? Hopefully not maliciously, but perhaps; hopefully repented for, but maybe not. We are pretty good at justifying our actions sometimes.
I think the Holy Spirit gave me this subject this morning as during the sequence of events after mother’s death, and even to date I have dealt with offense. I almost wrote ‘great’ offense, and then I thought, it was only great offense because I was the one feeling it, perhaps. I know it was not malicious or even really recognizable perhaps to anyone except myself. The enemy made sure that my expectations from people were not met sufficiently (and could I define my expectations? NO!) The enemy kept my mind busy with what was missing, “How could they not ________?” Fill in the blank. This experience has opened my eyes to offense – unintentional offense should be handled this way, “Let it roll!” I would even venture to say, even intention offense should be handled this way as well, it’s not our burden to bear if someone intentionally tries to offend us.
I believe most people are genuinely hood, they want to help. Especially in the case I was dealing with, who even knew what help looked like? I didn’t, but you can bet the enemy was right there reminding me that I wasn’t getting the help I needed.
If someone would have called, “Ugh, I don’t feel like telling everyone what is going on or talk about it.” If, heaven forbid they did not call, “Ugh, I can’t believe no one called.” It was what my mother would have called a lose-lose situation.
Today (yesterday morning, actually when the article was written) I choose to give up offense, I choose to forgive those who have unintentionally offended (and intentionally that I may not be aware of). I also ask for forgiveness of those I may have offeneded. The enemy would have us live in a state of offense, that state I believe is unproductive and not favored by God!
Let’s be as in Ecclesiastes, “Let it roll!”